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You can’t give what you don’t have

Leadership, Management

I want to give you a gift. I would like you to have it, with no expectation of return. Just because.

I want it to serve you, to help you, to become part of your life. A skill you have. A tool in your belt.

But here’s the thing. I don’t have it yet.

Until I do, I’ll tell you all about it. I’ll describe how amazing it is, highlighting its features and benefits.

This way, you can understand it in the abstract before you actually see it.

You can process it intellectually before you put it to use.

You can know that I want you to have it, that I’m thinking of you.

If you are who I think you are, you believe deeply in the people who are most important to you.

You would give them the world.

You want them to have all they want and more.

You want them to achieve all they’re capable of.

Right?

If you’ve been reading this blog regularly, you know I believe that taking care of yourself is ultimately an act of selflessness.

And here’s how I’ve recently been thinking about it: you can’t give anyone what you don’t have.

As leaders, we sometimes try to give perspective, or balance, or strength to our teams while taking none for ourselves. It doesn’t work.

We can’t give . . .

Space

Time

Empathy

Possibility

Courage

Perspective

Clarity

Security

Determination

. . . without having it.

The way we give these incredible gifts to those we serve is by first cultivating them in ourselves. By realizing that courageous teams require courageous leaders. That the undaunted are led by the undaunted. That practicing the skills of giving ourselves perspective when we need it teaches others to do the same. That being the leader we want others to have is the way we influence them becoming the leaders we want them to be.


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